Can I use the word sacred in a technical post?
You can make conflict more pleasant, but only if you stop trying to get rid of it.
Work, itself, is an opiate. And you can't do your best work when you're stoned.
This system works because friendship is a process that happens a little bit at a time, and then all at once. Friends are, on some level, two people who have grown used to one another.
I was rewarded for being interested in things. I was rewarded for being interested in everything.
Work wants to own your need to grow, and your need to build, and your need to love.
It is very, very hard for my particular demon to call an activity that produces a physical object, that I can hold in my hands, and that will ultimately keep me or a friend warm, "not productive."
Most of the advice I've gotten about burnout has been useless-to-actively-harmful. "Have you tried yoga and meditation?" "Take more time off." "Don't get so worked up about work." If you've gotten this advice, you know that it is garbage. It doesn't help you solve your problem, and it maybe has
I had to confront a lot of my fears about myself, sometimes every day. I had to learn to show someone else all the things I didn’t know, my limitations as a human and a software engineer.