Conservation of Conflict
You can make conflict more pleasant, but only if you stop trying to get rid of it.
Do you want to do things that matter, or do you want to be busy?
Work, itself, is an opiate. And you can't do your best work when you're stoned.
A slow but reliable system for making friends
This system works because friendship is a process that happens a little bit at a time, and then all at once. Friends are, on some level, two people who have grown used to one another.
The camera had a power I hadn't expected
I was rewarded for being interested in things. I was rewarded for being interested in everything.
Work wants to own your soul
Work wants to own your need to grow, and your need to build, and your need to love.
Quiet your productivity demons with knitting, today!
It is very, very hard for my particular demon to call an activity that produces a physical object, that I can hold in my hands, and that will ultimately keep me or a friend warm, "not productive."
Burnout recovery, and the self-care trap
Most of the advice I've gotten about burnout has been useless-to-actively-harmful. "Have you tried yoga and meditation?" "Take more time
The Mortifying Ordeal of Pairing All Day
I had to confront a lot of my fears about myself, sometimes every day. I had to learn to show someone else all the things I didn’t know, my limitations as a human and a software engineer.