Burnout

Burnout

Why you're burned out and what to do about it
Oct
08
Conservation of Conflict

Conservation of Conflict

You can make conflict more pleasant, but only if you stop trying to get rid of it.
8 min read
Sep
17
Do you want to do things that matter, or do you want to be busy?

Do you want to do things that matter, or do you want to be busy?

Work, itself, is an opiate. And you can't do your best work when you're stoned.
9 min read
Aug
06
A slow but reliable system for making friends

A slow but reliable system for making friends

This system works because friendship is a process that happens a little bit at a time, and then all at once. Friends are, on some level, two people who have grown used to one another.
6 min read
Jul
23
The camera had a power I hadn't expected

The camera had a power I hadn't expected

I was rewarded for being interested in things. I was rewarded for being interested in everything.
5 min read
Jul
16
Work wants to own your soul

Work wants to own your soul

Work wants to own your need to grow, and your need to build, and your need to love.
4 min read
Jun
25
Quiet your productivity demons with knitting, today!

Quiet your productivity demons with knitting, today!

It is very, very hard for my particular demon to call an activity that produces a physical object, that I can hold in my hands, and that will ultimately keep me or a friend warm, "not productive."
5 min read
Jun
11
Burnout recovery, and the self-care trap

Burnout recovery, and the self-care trap

Most of the advice I've gotten about burnout has been useless-to-actively-harmful. "Have you tried yoga and meditation?" "Take more time
4 min read
May
07
The Mortifying Ordeal of Pairing All Day

The Mortifying Ordeal of Pairing All Day

I had to confront a lot of my fears about myself, sometimes every day. I had to learn to show someone else all the things I didn’t know, my limitations as a human and a software engineer.
6 min read